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Hour Blocking: The Secret to Effective Time Management

Hour Blocking: The Secret to Effective Time Management

Time management is an essential skill, and hour blocking is an easy and powerful way to master this skill. You can use it to block off hours in your schedule and get more things finished. It enables you to take control of the minutes in each day.

Follow this process to take advantage of this valuable technique:

  1. Start with planning. Make a list of all of your important tasks for the week. Then, narrow this list down to three to five essential tasks.
  • Be realistic about your planning. Avoid thinking that you can do a million tasks in one day or week.
  1. Block your hours. After you have a short list of tasks, block the hours on your schedule. This is called time blocking and essentially requires you to take each hour and assign a task or item to it.
  • Clump related tasks together and add them to specific blocks of time.
  • Remember to schedule lunches and breaks. Taking time to rest your mind and body is important! Your breaks allow you to get back to your tasks with renewed energy.
  1. Reduce distractions. Hour blocking demands that you eliminate distractions, so you don’t lose focus.
  • Figure out what your main distractions are. Do you waste time on social media or constantly check your phone? Do you spend hours in your email inbox and respond to every message instantly?
  • Eliminate or reduce these distractions. You may want to set aside a specific chunk of time each day to handle your social media, email inbox, and other tasks that distract you from your more essential actions.
  • Also, when you’re working, let others know that you’re busy so they can limit their interruptions. 
  1. Keep the time blocks flexible. Unless you know the exact amount of time each task will take, it’s important to keep the time blocks flexible. This will also enable you to take care of other important things that come up with a minimum amount of stress or changes to your schedule.
  1. Review your time blocks regularly. Make adjustments as needed. If your tasks change, or you find that they take more or less time than you thought, modify your time blocks to take the new information into account.
  • Reviewing your time blocks will also give you the chance to see when you’re most productive. If you do your best work in the morning, schedule more important tasks during these hours. Reviews will help you evaluate your productivity levels and decide which parts need attention.
  • Another advantage of doing reviews is that it gives you the chance to see if your reminders are working or if they need to be changed. Use alerts on your phone or computer, sticky notes, or traditional alarms to remind you that it’s time to move to the next task. The key is to find something that works for you.

Effective time management can help you finish more tasks each day and feel more accomplished. Hour blocking is a useful method for anyone who is interested in greater productivity, either at home or at work.

5 Easy Ways to Create Joy Today

5 Easy Ways to Create Joy Today

Joy doesn’t have to be hard to manifest in your life. You can create it by making a conscious effort to have more happiness.

Joy is an important mindset. It’s not just about what happens to you. Your reactions to events, circumstances, people, and situations are part of it. Joy may feel impermanent or fickle, but you can attract it and make it more stable.

Create more joy in your life:

  1. Make a change. Whether you’ve always wanted to learn how to play the piano or take a professional cooking class, you can make changes in your life that lead to joy.
  • Avoid allowing fear to stop you from making changes.
  • Joy tends to be on the other side of fear. Can you imagine how you’ll feel when you finally take the class you’ve always wanted? Can you imagine how you’ll feel when you switch careers to something you love?
  • The change doesn’t have to be huge. You can take small steps toward your dreams.
  • Realize that your happiness depends on you. You can’t expect your life to get better by doing nothing every day. So make a change to take you in the direction you wish to go.
  1. Learn gratitude. It’s easy to focus on the day-to-day stress and lose sight of the simple things that you’re thankful for.
  • Make a list or keep a journal of all the good things in your life. Review it each day. This will help you find peace and joy on a daily basis. You’ll see that your life isn’t made up of just negative moments.
  • Your gratitude list can include ordinary things such as having a home, a bed, or a breakfast every morning. The key is to focus on the areas of your life that make you feel happy.
  1. Make a happy board. Similar to a vision board, a happy board is filled with things that make you happy – right now – rather than goals that you’re working toward.
  • For example, if the beach is one of your favorite places, fill your happy board with images of beaches.
  •  You can make it on paper or design it online.
  • The key is to use the space to add things that bring joy to your life. This can act as a manifesting agent and help you get more of the things you love.
  1. Stop the flaw focus. One of the things that hurts your ability to have more joy is a focus on your flaws.
  • This applies to both internal and external influences. If others are concentrating on your flaws, then it’s time to move on and find new friends. Likewise, if you’re paying too much attention to your own flaws, then it’s time to change your mindset.
  • Practice love and acceptance each day. Recognize your flaws without focusing on them.
  1. Forgive yourself. You can’t experience happiness if you’re constantly blaming yourself and making yourself feel awful. It’s important to learn how to forgive yourself to have joy.
  • Learn to let go of the guilt and shame that has built up in your life. Negative situations come up for everyone. Consciously avoid dwelling on them.
  • Practice forgiveness and stifle your inner critic for good. View forgiveness as a way to use self-care on a daily basis.

Joy doesn’t have to be a fleeting moment you feel on occasion. Let joy be a bigger part of your daily existence. Use these strategies and enjoy your life.

5 Good Reasons To Find Your your “Why”

5 Good Reasons To Find Your your “Why” 

There are quite a few reasons to find your life purpose, your “why”, your reason for getting up in the morning and doing what you do. Finding your life purpose can be a powerful thing and it goes well beyond the satisfaction of knowing you’re doing something worthwhile. Let’s take a look at five different good reasons to spend the time to find your “why”. Find your life purpose.

You’ll Feel Less Stressed 

How much mental energy and worry do you spend trying to figure out what you should or could be doing each day? When your “why” is clear in your mind, you don’t have to worry about that any longer and feel less stressed.

But there’s more to it than that. When we aren’t following our passion and purpose, we aren’t happy with what we’re doing and with that comes added stress. It’s no wonder that you’ll feel calmer and more relaxed about what you do and life in general when you know where you’re going.

You’ll Get More Done 

Time flies when you’re having fun and it slows down to a crawl when you aren’t. Along the same lines you get a lot more productive and get through your workload in a lot less time when you have a purpose and are passionate about what you’re doing.

I’m sure you’ve noticed this in your daily life. When you’re working on something you enjoy or something that’s important to you, the work almost seems to do itself. You don’t even notice how long or how hard you’ve been at it.

You Do A Better Job 

Not only do you get things done faster, you do everything you can to learn more and get better at what you love to do. As a result you do a much better job. Now there’s a great reason to find your why and follow your life purpose.

How to build your self esteem by doing your thing.

How to build your self esteem by doing your thing.

On a scale of one to ten, how would you rate your self esteem? Is it easy for you to be loud and proud and share with others your opinion? You work? How about your personal needs or preferences? Does your environment and home reflect who you are as a person? It is worth considering.

Take a deep breath.

Now I want you to Ask yourself: Who are you trying to impress?  Take just a moment and think about it. What is the first thing that pops into your mind? Your family? Your significant other? Your second grade teacher? If the answer is anyone but yourself then you need to stop seeking approval from others and begin to enjoy greater self-esteem by doing your own thing.

Approval-seeking behavior is self-sabotaging. It is exactly the opposite of being authentic. If you are seeking approval outside of yourself you are not paying attention to your inner voice, the voice of your authentic self. Besides, trying to impress others is exhausting and minimizes your own importance and individuality. The only person that you need to impress is yourself.

So if authenticity is one of your core values do you see how you would feel conflicted or like you were hiding something? Is the thing that you are hiding from others your SELF?

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Free yourself from the need to receive approval from others:

  1. Speak up. Share your opinion. One symptom of approval-seeking behavior is the hesitance to share your own opinion. You worry that you might say something that the other person doesn’t like or doesn’t approve of and since it was your opinion, they might not approve of you either.
    • Give your opinion, even if it makes you uncomfortable. Start with smaller things. Do you think it will rain? Do you prefer red or white? Which movie would you like to see? Vanilla or chocolate?
  2. Avoid judging others. If you’re busy in your head being overly critical of others, you are not being fully present with what is going on before you. In this autopilot state of being it’s only natural that you assume others are the same towards you. This will tie you up in a knot. By training yourself to avoid this type of behavior, you’ll be less likely to make a negative assumption that everyone else is judging you. This strategy frees everyone up. Allow others to be as they are. It makes life more interesting. Sit back and enjoy the differences.
    • Notice your thoughts. Are you constantly judging others in a variety of situations?
    • Instill a habit to uplift and inspire others to find their way event if it is different than your own. Celebrate differences and perspective and watch the flow open up in your life.
  3. Beware of energetic manipulation and how you allow it. Realize that others can use disapproval can be used as a weapon. Many people use disapproval as a means of getting what they want. They may disapprove of your opinion, clothing, hairstyle, or anything else to enjoy the fruits of your submission. This is a form of energetic manipulation and once you become aware of the pattern it is up to you to break the cycle.
    • Call people on their disapproval of you. It is important that you stand up for yourself. Ask them to explain themselves if you are unclear about their stance. Remember that most negative people are looking for a victim, not a fight. When you stick up for yourself, many of the bullies disappear.
    • Knowing this can free you from seeking the approval of others. In many cases, they’re just in the game for themselves.
  4. Be aware of what happens when someone disapproves of you. Nothing happens. We seem to be born with an intense desire to fit in. But what actually happens when someone disapproves of you? The sky doesn’t fall on top of you. You might suffer from a little anxiety or embarrassment, but it passes. You are best served by learning energy tools to call back your energy to yourself and re-train negative thoughts in a more productive direction
  5. Do some things for yourself. If you’re constantly seeking approval, you’re not taking very good care of yourself. Adopt a daily practice of RADICAL Self Care. Show yourself that you’re important by focusing some of your time and energy on yourself. It might be a little bit uncomfortable at first. You might even feel selfish.
    • Make a date with yourself and schedule it in your calendar and honor it as an important obligation. This is sacred time for yourself and you are building a relationship with yourself. It is important that you know you are a priority in your life.
  6. Fill your life with things that are important. If you had to run across the street naked to save your dog’s life, you wouldn’t be worried about anyone’s opinion. That’s because your dog’s life is more important than your ego. But you don’t need a disaster to experience this.
    • Volunteer with an organization that’s doing important work in an area that you are passionate about.
    • Write a book that you believe will change peoples lives for the better.
    • Find ways to spend your time and energy on things you value.

By filling your life with people, activities and things that you value and are passionate about you will feel more ease in all areas of your life. You’ll find that you enjoy more freedom, more joy and genuine contentment in the other, less important, parts of your life.

Being overly concerned about the opinions of others is damaging to your self-esteem. Each time you seek approval outside of yourself, you’re diminishing your own self importance. Your opinion matters. Allow your individuality to be seen and experienced by others. Remember the old adage: “What other people think of you is none of your business.” It is only by embodying and aligning your highest self that you can feel the sense of approval you are searching for.

Experience Freedom by setting your authentic self free

Do you long for freedom? Do you realize that only you have the power to Set Yourself Free? Are you ready to get real and be your authentic self?

Authenticity is often underrated. It’s more than being honest with the world or speaking your mind. It’s about being honest with yourself and who you are and how you are being. There are many advantages to being authentic. Most importantly, you’ll no longer feel the need to change your words and actions to impress others. Being in authentic is EXHAUSTING! What other people think of you is none of your business. You can relax and be yourself.

Before you can be completely authentic, it’s important to know yourself. Who are you really? You need to develop a certain level of self-awareness. This includes clarity around your values and goals. This also includes developing a relationship with your higher self. Developing communication with your inner self and tuning into your body consciously on a regular basis. Authenticity becomes possible when you know what’s truly important to you as a person and as a spirit.

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Embrace authenticity and present yourself honestly:

  1. Give up the need to appear perfect. When you don’t need to appear perfect, you’re in the position to be honest. If you are spending to much time thinking about this you are in your head or listening to you negative ego. If you are in your heart and doing what is authentic you are not hiding or covering up anything. You are transparent. No one can be perfect and honest at the same time. Avoid putting on a show for the rest of the world. You’ll only feel bad about yourself later.
    • It’s okay to be less than spectacular. Be the best at being yourself.
  2. Know your values and live by them. If you know your core values and live by them consistently, you’re already doing well in the authenticity department. More importantly I want you to embody your values. When you are congruent with the energies or your values you actually begin to emit those energies to others. You can only do this my writing them down and referring back to them on a regular basis. Make it part of your daily practice. For myself some of my values include: Freedom, Self-Expression, Creativity, Light-heartedness, Love, Authenticity, Compassion, desire to learn and my list goes on….
    • Make a list of your core values and determine the top 5-7 that are most important to you. Are you living your life in alignment to these values? Would it be obvious to others that you hold these values?
    • Decide to make your decisions based upon your core values. Be willing to share your values with others. If something is not in alignment with what you stand for consider if you want it in your life or if you want to make some changes. It is only by making these distinctions can you start to build a reality and a world that is in harmony with who you are on a deep authentic level.
  3. Notice when you’re not being authentic. It’s not easy to be authentic all the time. You might find yourself transforming based on the situation. A first date is a good example. Or going into a networking event trying to size up a new group. Are you being authentic or pretending to be someone you’re not? Are you able to share what you are about or do you clam up?
    • Take note of those times your authenticity starts to wane. Notice if you are participating in conversations or just giving lip service without fully engaging with others. Many times we are in a conversation and we don’t even hear what the other person is saying because we are inside ourselves trying to think of what we will say as soon as the other person stops talking! It is important to be able to stay present and be with others. It is equally important to be able to share authentically when it is our time.
  4. Know your goals. What do you want out of life? What direction are you headed in? What are you passionate about? Do you know what steps you need to take to get to where you want to be? Are you willing to let others know what you want and how you intend to get there? By knowing your goals, you can you live your life and direct your activities and energy accordingly. You have to be willing to really look deeply at your motivations and be aware of your intentions.
    • Make a list of your short-term and long-term goals. How well do they align with your values? Are they your goals from your most authentic heart or are you trying to get something to win approval?
  5. What are your defining characteristics? Describe yourself honestly. Now ask yourself if a casual acquaintance would describe you the same way? How about someone that knows you well? How about your closest friend?
    • How many people know you well? If there aren’t many, ask yourself why. If you’re living authentically, it should be easy for someone to develop an accurate opinion of you because you will have nothing to hide. You will project clarity and direction. If you are not being authentic you will project uncertainty or perhaps even indifference.
    • What are your “negative” characteristics? Are you impatient, gossipy, self centered or messy? Are you willing to allow others to see these characteristics or do you attempt to hide them?
  6. Tell the truth. If you’re being authentic, why would you need to lie? This pertains especially to anything you say about yourself. Admit your mistakes, weaknesses, and frailties. Share your opinions honestly and freely.
  7. Simplify your life. Get rid of everything that’s extraneous. What you choose to keep will be representative of your preferences and your true self. Find your true essence by stripping away the non-essential. Start with the clothes you never wear, the things you never use, and the activities you don’t enjoy. Only keep the things that mean the most to you.
  8. Do what you say you’ll do. Or as Don Miguel Ruiz says in the 4 Agreements: Be your Word. Keep your word and follow through on your promises. Language is the manifestation of thought. Use your super power of words and language wisely. Choose words that uplift. Choose to keep your word when you say you will do something. Your word is who you are. You’ll feel more congruent, and others will view you as more congruent. When your words and actions match, you’re demonstrating authenticity.

Life becomes easier when you’re living authentically. You’ll no longer feel the exhaustion that comes with constantly changing your opinions, attitudes, and personality to please others. You’ll no longer feel the need to protect yourself from others.

Whenever possible choose to be authentic with your thoughts, words, and actions. Invest the time in yourself and learn to be free.

Please let me know if you have found this information helpful.

See my event page is you are a woman who wants more Power, Presence and Passion in your life! I offer talks on Energy Healing for Stress Reduction and Self-Care as well as Energy Healing Play-shops to help you develop your own Energy Healing Daily Practice.

Creativity for Stress Relief

Creativity alleviates stress.

As life throws a challenging energy my way, I redirect the energy into my creative flow. My creativity is how I connect with my soul. To be in my creative flow is to be connected to my source.

I choose to respond positively when I am challenged in order to avoid feeling stressed. I clear away relationship and things that do not bring me joy and focus on creating a life I love.

My response to tough situations is connect to my deepest and most authentic self and to engage my creativity.

When I take time out to create something new, I feel like I am replacing negative energy with positivity. I use color and textures to express my mood.  Inspired activities in which I connect with my own creativity allow me to dig deep into my soul for a light that brightens the world.

Writing soothes my emotional burdens and releases my tensions. My writing keeps me connected to my imagination and the most magical part of myself.

My words both acknowledge and empower me. Being honest about my feelings is the first step to releasing their weight from my body and my energy. I follow up those open and honest words with words of empowerment and resolution. I strive to uplift and empower those around me. This is part of my creative process.

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Whenever possible I exercise and connect to my voice. I love to vocalize and express myself through song. I love to sing fun and silly songs from my childhood. I love to sing songs that touch my heart. Expressing myself through song lifts my spirit. The lyrics and melodies that I write are therapeutic. My music flows through me.

My creativity pulls me out of the darkness and renews my spirit.

My artistry is a blessing. It builds me from the inside out. My courageous creativity fortifies my inner self to defend against any challenge in life. I create whatever I need in any given moment. The Universe provides all I need.

Today, I am blessed because I know the value of my creativity. My difficult situations are more manageable today because I spend time being imaginative. Being transported to another world through inspiration gives me a chance to rebuild.

Self-Reflection Questions:

  1. How else, other than through art, can I exercise my creativity?
  2. In what other ways am I able to alleviate stress?
  3. What value do I place on creativity?

What is Self- Awareness?

What does it mean to be Self-Aware?

They say that Self-awareness is having a high degree of knowledge about yourself. It is the really the ability to navigate your inner landscape. It is having a healthy relationship with your higher self and tending to your own needs on a mental, physical, emotional and spiritual level.

It’s awareness of your motivations, habits, emotional tendencies, needs, desires, strengths, and weaknesses. Having a high level of self-awareness is a powerful tool. It allows you to change your life more effectively, since you know how you tick. Those that lack self-awareness find life to be frustrating.

I believe that written over the entrance at the ancient oracle at Delphi is the phrase “know thyself.” A second phrase is also written: “everything in moderation.” To me this is essential. I think it is best to strive for self awareness and keep an a light and moderate approach to doing so. Remember that old joke? “Angels can fly because they take themselves lightly.” Keep this in mind and do not become self obsessed or narcissistic in your attitude but live by the golden rule. The only person you are competing with is yourself.

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How to Develop your self-awareness:

  1. Notice your feelings. You need to get real with yourself. Take an honest look at how you are living. What are you feeling throughout the day? What do you feel while you’re eating? Driving to work? Lying in bed? Taking a shower? Waiting in line?
    • Once you’ve notice your emotional climate, examine it. What am I feeling? Why? What do I need right now? What do I want? How do I normally react in this situation? Is that the best strategy to get what I want?
  2. Notice your thoughts. Unless you’ve been meditating for years, and believe me, sometime even then your mind is constantly producing  ideas and endlessly providing a running commentary on everything that is happening in your world. You can’t just look at a tree and admire it, your mind has to comment, “That’s a beautiful tree.” Then it’s off to the races. “I wonder if that tree is home to a lot of squirrels?”
    • Notice your thinking patterns. Notice how you react to your external world. What are you thinking when you’re feeling stressed? Bored? Interested? Walking down the street? Notice that similar situations result in similar thought patterns. Do you usually occupy a positive or negative state of mind? Try to distinguish your own thought process.
    • Do you judge people and situations? Do you spend a lot of time thinking about the past or the future? Do you expect the worst to happen or the best? Or do you adopt an attitude of, “Let’s just see what happens”? How In the flow would you rate yourself?
  3. Understand how you deal with frustration or emotional discomfort. A huge chunk of your time is spent trying to make yourself feel better. If you feel slightly frustrated or uncomfortable, then you may spend a tremendous amount of time and energy trying to change the situation or the others around you to resolve those negative feelings. Notice how you deal with stressors in your life.
    • Do you try to control others? Do you attempt to distract yourself? Is your first instinct to leave the situation? Do you surf the internet or eat a big bowl of ice cream?
  4. Examine your friendships. Where do you find your friends? What kind of social or community service groups do you belong to? Are most of your friendships long-term or short? When your friendships end, what is the common cause? What types of people do you prefer to be friends with? What types of people do you avoid?
  5. Examine your intimate relationships. Do you see a pattern in the type of people that you’ve been involved with? What are the negative characteristics they all share? Are you dating the same person with a different face? Why do you think those people appealed to you?
    • What were your shortcomings in your relationships? Are you clingy? Jealous? Too focused on work? Failed to communicate your needs? Think about how you contributed to the failure of your relationships.
    • Have you changed your approach from relationship to relationship, or do you continue to repeat your mistakes?
  6. Keep a journal. There’s no better way to learn about yourself than to record your thoughts, feelings, and experiences each day. Studies have shown that we don’t remember our past very accurately, so record it while it’s still fresh in your mind. Be sure to include your high and low points for the day.
    • Note how well you ate and slept, too. You might find some useful information. Your diet and sleep patterns play a very important part in your physical, emotional and mental well being. Self care is a primary need so make sure you are tracking to see patterns and how they effect your overall well being.
    • Create a habit of writing in your journal for at least 15 minutes each day. You’ll start to notice patterns and learn a lot about yourself. When I really pay attention to my journalling I start to notice how my tone or handwriting takes on different characteristics depending on my mood. What do you notice?

Understanding yourself might be the most important piece of your self-development puzzle. If you don’t understand yourself, it’s difficult to apply all the great information available today. Maintain an awareness of your thoughts, feelings, and actions. Examine and question them. You’ll be surprised by what you find. Here is a video affirmation meditation I created to help deal with any necessary change.

Please let me know if I can be of any assistance to you on your journey!

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