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Dare to be Original

Dare to be Original

It’s not easy to be yourself. It takes awareness and authenticity. At home, you can relax, but once you go out that door, it’s a whole other matter. You feel the need to behave and dress a certain way. You’re less open with your preferences and opinions, especially when dealing with strangers. It’s not easy to be original.

All during your school years, there’s immense pressure to fit in. Those that are original are fodder for bullies in the educational system.

But as an adult, there is much to be gained if you dare to be original.

Secretly, we all admire those brave enough to be themselves. Many of the most creative people are the most highly valued. You don’t get to become a CEO, or successful actor, musician, or artist without the courage to be yourself.

There are many benefits to being original, both professional and social!

Feel better about yourself and enhance your life by daring to be original:

  1. Rely on your instincts and intuition. Two things that makes you original are your instincts and your intuition. They are yours and yours alone. Both are based upon your unique experiences and view of the world. Anytime you learn something new, you’re affected. That knowledge influences your perspective.
  • Start small and rely on your gut to make small decisions for you. Try going for a drive and allow your intuition to guide you. Take the turns in the road that just “feel” right to you.
  • Trust your gut when you lack sufficient information.
  1. Change your clothing. Do you dress the way you prefer, or do you dress to fit in or to impress others? This isn’t a suggestion to wear a miniskirt or a purple suit to your bank job, but outside of work, you’re largely free to do as you please. Dress to impress yourself.
  • Be more flexible with your hairstyle and facial hair, too.
  1. Share your opinions openly. There’s no reason to tell your office mate that her new hairstyle reminds you of a housewife from the 50’s. However, you can freely share your opinions on less personal things. Be open regarding your taste in movies, music, food, and other similar topics. Allow others to see the real you.
  1. Be kind to those that are brave enough to be original, too. If you’re critical of others, you’ll be afraid of receiving the same treatment. This will stifle your freedom to be yourself. That acquaintance with the green hair, eight cats, and smells like potpourri? Be accepting.
  2. Be willing to make mistakes. Make decisions as wisely as possible, but make them and do your best. If you’re afraid of making mistakes, you’ll never be original.
  3. You have nothing to lose. The late Steve Jobs stated, “Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.”
  • In 100+ years, there will no one left on Earth that ever saw you or spoke to you in the flesh. There’s no reason not to be yourself and enjoy the time you have.
  1. Spend more time with your best friends. Part of the reason you like those people so much is your ability to you be yourself around them. It’s refreshing, and you feel better about yourself. So, why not spend more time with them? You might develop the habit of being yourself.

Isn’t it time be your true self? You’ve been living as a shadow of yourself for too long. Realize that life is short and being anything other than your true self is being less than you can be. Be brave and show the world who you really are.

Experience Freedom by setting your authentic self free

Do you long for freedom? Do you realize that only you have the power to Set Yourself Free? Are you ready to get real and be your authentic self?

Authenticity is often underrated. It’s more than being honest with the world or speaking your mind. It’s about being honest with yourself and who you are and how you are being. There are many advantages to being authentic. Most importantly, you’ll no longer feel the need to change your words and actions to impress others. Being in authentic is EXHAUSTING! What other people think of you is none of your business. You can relax and be yourself.

Before you can be completely authentic, it’s important to know yourself. Who are you really? You need to develop a certain level of self-awareness. This includes clarity around your values and goals. This also includes developing a relationship with your higher self. Developing communication with your inner self and tuning into your body consciously on a regular basis. Authenticity becomes possible when you know what’s truly important to you as a person and as a spirit.

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Embrace authenticity and present yourself honestly:

  1. Give up the need to appear perfect. When you don’t need to appear perfect, you’re in the position to be honest. If you are spending to much time thinking about this you are in your head or listening to you negative ego. If you are in your heart and doing what is authentic you are not hiding or covering up anything. You are transparent. No one can be perfect and honest at the same time. Avoid putting on a show for the rest of the world. You’ll only feel bad about yourself later.
    • It’s okay to be less than spectacular. Be the best at being yourself.
  2. Know your values and live by them. If you know your core values and live by them consistently, you’re already doing well in the authenticity department. More importantly I want you to embody your values. When you are congruent with the energies or your values you actually begin to emit those energies to others. You can only do this my writing them down and referring back to them on a regular basis. Make it part of your daily practice. For myself some of my values include: Freedom, Self-Expression, Creativity, Light-heartedness, Love, Authenticity, Compassion, desire to learn and my list goes on….
    • Make a list of your core values and determine the top 5-7 that are most important to you. Are you living your life in alignment to these values? Would it be obvious to others that you hold these values?
    • Decide to make your decisions based upon your core values. Be willing to share your values with others. If something is not in alignment with what you stand for consider if you want it in your life or if you want to make some changes. It is only by making these distinctions can you start to build a reality and a world that is in harmony with who you are on a deep authentic level.
  3. Notice when you’re not being authentic. It’s not easy to be authentic all the time. You might find yourself transforming based on the situation. A first date is a good example. Or going into a networking event trying to size up a new group. Are you being authentic or pretending to be someone you’re not? Are you able to share what you are about or do you clam up?
    • Take note of those times your authenticity starts to wane. Notice if you are participating in conversations or just giving lip service without fully engaging with others. Many times we are in a conversation and we don’t even hear what the other person is saying because we are inside ourselves trying to think of what we will say as soon as the other person stops talking! It is important to be able to stay present and be with others. It is equally important to be able to share authentically when it is our time.
  4. Know your goals. What do you want out of life? What direction are you headed in? What are you passionate about? Do you know what steps you need to take to get to where you want to be? Are you willing to let others know what you want and how you intend to get there? By knowing your goals, you can you live your life and direct your activities and energy accordingly. You have to be willing to really look deeply at your motivations and be aware of your intentions.
    • Make a list of your short-term and long-term goals. How well do they align with your values? Are they your goals from your most authentic heart or are you trying to get something to win approval?
  5. What are your defining characteristics? Describe yourself honestly. Now ask yourself if a casual acquaintance would describe you the same way? How about someone that knows you well? How about your closest friend?
    • How many people know you well? If there aren’t many, ask yourself why. If you’re living authentically, it should be easy for someone to develop an accurate opinion of you because you will have nothing to hide. You will project clarity and direction. If you are not being authentic you will project uncertainty or perhaps even indifference.
    • What are your “negative” characteristics? Are you impatient, gossipy, self centered or messy? Are you willing to allow others to see these characteristics or do you attempt to hide them?
  6. Tell the truth. If you’re being authentic, why would you need to lie? This pertains especially to anything you say about yourself. Admit your mistakes, weaknesses, and frailties. Share your opinions honestly and freely.
  7. Simplify your life. Get rid of everything that’s extraneous. What you choose to keep will be representative of your preferences and your true self. Find your true essence by stripping away the non-essential. Start with the clothes you never wear, the things you never use, and the activities you don’t enjoy. Only keep the things that mean the most to you.
  8. Do what you say you’ll do. Or as Don Miguel Ruiz says in the 4 Agreements: Be your Word. Keep your word and follow through on your promises. Language is the manifestation of thought. Use your super power of words and language wisely. Choose words that uplift. Choose to keep your word when you say you will do something. Your word is who you are. You’ll feel more congruent, and others will view you as more congruent. When your words and actions match, you’re demonstrating authenticity.

Life becomes easier when you’re living authentically. You’ll no longer feel the exhaustion that comes with constantly changing your opinions, attitudes, and personality to please others. You’ll no longer feel the need to protect yourself from others.

Whenever possible choose to be authentic with your thoughts, words, and actions. Invest the time in yourself and learn to be free.

Please let me know if you have found this information helpful.

See my event page is you are a woman who wants more Power, Presence and Passion in your life! I offer talks on Energy Healing for Stress Reduction and Self-Care as well as Energy Healing Play-shops to help you develop your own Energy Healing Daily Practice.

10 Habits of Happy People

Do you ever wonder why are some people happy all of the time? The happiest people have habits that raise the odds of feeling happy. Unhappy people have habits that result in less desirable feelings. It can be that simple. You can train yourself to be happy by consistently choosing happiness. If you’re not as happy as you’d like, take a look at your habits and notice what you might want to change.

Those that are happy share many qualities. Adopting these same qualities will yield positive results.

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Habits that lead to happiness are enjoyable to implement:

  1. Optimism. Obviously, if you believe good things will happen, it’s much more likely that you’ll be happy. Expecting the worst does nothing to improve your mood! Realistically, it’s not even important to expect a positive outcome, only to believe that everything will be okay. Optimism is also a form of belief in yourself. If you believe that you can handle any outcome, you can be optimistic and have the mental freedom to be happy.
  1. Altruism. Doing things for others provides multiple benefits. You can see firsthand that you have a lot to be grateful for. You can feel good about yourself for assisting others. You have a good reason to get out of bed in the morning. You also feel useful. Make a list of at least three ways you can help others that will also fit into your schedule.
  2. Gratitude. Do you realize how many great things and people you already have in your life? By maintaining focus on the things you don’t have, you’re making yourself unhappy. Experiencing gratitude helps to create feelings of happiness. Recently a friend of mine took a 21 day gratitude challenge and literally texted me 3 things a day that made her feel grateful. The outcome was that she was uplifted, I was uplifted by her morning text and our friendship was deepened. A win all around! why not try it?
  3. An exciting future. Maximum happiness requires that you have something to look forward to. It can be that compelling vision you created at your last business event, retiring early, a luxury vacation, or a hot date on Saturday night. Have a few goals that give you a reason to be excited. This means you have to be brave enough to create really exciting goals! Create goals that are both short-term and long-term to keep you in the flow.
  4. Success. Spend some time doing things that you’re good at and that you truly love to do. It feels good to do well at something. It doesn’t have to be a competitive event. You can run a 5k or play the piano and feel great about yourself. Make of list of the things you excel at and try to spend at least a little time each day doing one of them.
  5. Resilience. This is such an important one. We all know it’s impossible to avoid challenging times. Sooner or later, something will happen that threatens your progress, success, or happiness. Resilience is the ability to continue forging ahead. Some people have a knack for making obstacles seem bigger than they really are. Others are able to maintain their composure and continue making progress. How resilient are you when it comes to overcoming your obstacles?
  6. Reasonable expectations. When your expectations are overly optimistic, you’ll routinely experience disappointment. When your expectations are consistently low, you won’t feel very optimistic. Neither is a recipe for happiness. Even the co-creative Laws of Attraction require you to meet the universe half way. You must set your intention and take necessary action.
  7. Forgiveness. How can you be happy while holding a grudge? Forgiving others quickly and easily make happiness possible. You might feel that some people don’t deserve forgiveness, but what is the alternative? Making yourself unhappy. On an energetic level you are depleting your energy and causing yourself harm by holding on to grievances in the past. I love the Hawaiian energy healing practice of Ho’o pono-pono which “puts things right again” on an energetic level so that everyone is free from the entanglement.
  8. Authenticity. Spending your time pretending to be something you’re not is a challenge to your self-esteem. Happiness is allusive if you don’t feel comfortable being yourself. Speak your truth. Allow your uniqueness to show. You will then attract people and situations that are in better alignment with who you are in the world.
  9. Presence. Thinking about the past leads to regret. Thoughts of the future lead to anxiety. Keep your mind in the present if you want to experience happiness on a regular basis.

There’s nothing complicated about happiness. Forgive others, be yourself, give of yourself, and be grateful for the things and people you already have. Having an effective set of habits will result in feeling more happiness. Expect success, dream of wonderful goals that scare you just a little and choose happiness every single day.

 

As my gift for you today: Here is a video affirmation meditation to assist you with goal setting entitled “Dreams are magic.” Dare to dream a fantastic wonderful life for yourself.

Please let me know if I can be of any assistance to you in your journey to success and happiness!
happy healing!
Aeriol
www.askaeriol.com

 

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