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5 Easy Ways to Create Joy Today

5 Easy Ways to Create Joy Today

Joy doesn’t have to be hard to manifest in your life. You can create it by making a conscious effort to have more happiness.

Joy is an important mindset. It’s not just about what happens to you. Your reactions to events, circumstances, people, and situations are part of it. Joy may feel impermanent or fickle, but you can attract it and make it more stable.

Create more joy in your life:

  1. Make a change. Whether you’ve always wanted to learn how to play the piano or take a professional cooking class, you can make changes in your life that lead to joy.
  • Avoid allowing fear to stop you from making changes.
  • Joy tends to be on the other side of fear. Can you imagine how you’ll feel when you finally take the class you’ve always wanted? Can you imagine how you’ll feel when you switch careers to something you love?
  • The change doesn’t have to be huge. You can take small steps toward your dreams.
  • Realize that your happiness depends on you. You can’t expect your life to get better by doing nothing every day. So make a change to take you in the direction you wish to go.
  1. Learn gratitude. It’s easy to focus on the day-to-day stress and lose sight of the simple things that you’re thankful for.
  • Make a list or keep a journal of all the good things in your life. Review it each day. This will help you find peace and joy on a daily basis. You’ll see that your life isn’t made up of just negative moments.
  • Your gratitude list can include ordinary things such as having a home, a bed, or a breakfast every morning. The key is to focus on the areas of your life that make you feel happy.
  1. Make a happy board. Similar to a vision board, a happy board is filled with things that make you happy – right now – rather than goals that you’re working toward.
  • For example, if the beach is one of your favorite places, fill your happy board with images of beaches.
  •  You can make it on paper or design it online.
  • The key is to use the space to add things that bring joy to your life. This can act as a manifesting agent and help you get more of the things you love.
  1. Stop the flaw focus. One of the things that hurts your ability to have more joy is a focus on your flaws.
  • This applies to both internal and external influences. If others are concentrating on your flaws, then it’s time to move on and find new friends. Likewise, if you’re paying too much attention to your own flaws, then it’s time to change your mindset.
  • Practice love and acceptance each day. Recognize your flaws without focusing on them.
  1. Forgive yourself. You can’t experience happiness if you’re constantly blaming yourself and making yourself feel awful. It’s important to learn how to forgive yourself to have joy.
  • Learn to let go of the guilt and shame that has built up in your life. Negative situations come up for everyone. Consciously avoid dwelling on them.
  • Practice forgiveness and stifle your inner critic for good. View forgiveness as a way to use self-care on a daily basis.

Joy doesn’t have to be a fleeting moment you feel on occasion. Let joy be a bigger part of your daily existence. Use these strategies and enjoy your life.

5 Good Reasons To Find Your your “Why”

5 Good Reasons To Find Your your “Why” 

There are quite a few reasons to find your life purpose, your “why”, your reason for getting up in the morning and doing what you do. Finding your life purpose can be a powerful thing and it goes well beyond the satisfaction of knowing you’re doing something worthwhile. Let’s take a look at five different good reasons to spend the time to find your “why”. Find your life purpose.

You’ll Feel Less Stressed 

How much mental energy and worry do you spend trying to figure out what you should or could be doing each day? When your “why” is clear in your mind, you don’t have to worry about that any longer and feel less stressed.

But there’s more to it than that. When we aren’t following our passion and purpose, we aren’t happy with what we’re doing and with that comes added stress. It’s no wonder that you’ll feel calmer and more relaxed about what you do and life in general when you know where you’re going.

You’ll Get More Done 

Time flies when you’re having fun and it slows down to a crawl when you aren’t. Along the same lines you get a lot more productive and get through your workload in a lot less time when you have a purpose and are passionate about what you’re doing.

I’m sure you’ve noticed this in your daily life. When you’re working on something you enjoy or something that’s important to you, the work almost seems to do itself. You don’t even notice how long or how hard you’ve been at it.

You Do A Better Job 

Not only do you get things done faster, you do everything you can to learn more and get better at what you love to do. As a result you do a much better job. Now there’s a great reason to find your why and follow your life purpose.

7 Simple Questions That Will Free Your Time

7 Simple Questions That Will Free Your Time

We all have too many priorities and too little time to do them justice. You can create more free time in your life by asking yourself a few questions. Questions are powerful, because they focus your attention and generate solutions. You just have to ask the right questions!

Ask yourself these questions and create more space in your life:

  1. What are my three greatest distractions? The most common distractions and time wasters are often electronic in nature. Your cell phone, laptop, and the television can leave you wondering where the time went. Other distractions might include an annoying neighbor, an organization that requires too much of your time, or frequent headaches.
  • Think of ways to eliminate or minimize these distractions and spend your time in a more meaningful way.
  1. Am I making the best use of the free time I already have available? When you do have free time, how do you use it? Consider both the small blocks of time you have available throughout the day and the larger segments of time that you have free.
  • If you’re waiting for a meeting to start, how do you use that time?
  • Are you using your time in the car as productively as possible? You could use the time to make phone calls or listen to educational programs.
  • Examine all the spare time you have each day and resolve to use it more productively.
  1. What are the three greatest distractions I have at work? An overly chatty cubicle mate might be neutralized with headphones. You can turn off the ringer on your phone. Think of the distractions you face and create solutions.
  1. What are my priorities? Make a list of your work and personal priorities. You can’t focus your time if you’re unaware of your priorities. You can focus your attention by reminding yourself of your priorities each day.
  2. What are the optional activities in my life? Make a list of everything you do in your life that’s optional – from watching TV to playing softball on the weekends. Some of those activities add to your life in meaningful ways, while others do not. Which of those activities are you willing to give up to create more space in your life?
  3. How can I simplify my life? How many blogs, magazine subscriptions, and podcasts do you follow? Are they all worth the time?
  • How often do you check your email? Is that more often than necessary?
  • Can you hire someone to mow your grass or clean your home?
  • Can you get rid of a few possessions that are taking up time and space in your life?
  1. What would I do if I had more free time? How would you spend that time? With whom would you spend it? If you can identify how you want to spend your free time, you might become more motivated to create more free time in your life.

Are you lacking enough time to enjoy your life? It’s time to set priorities and reduce distractions.

Decide what is most important to you. Then determine how you’re using your time inefficiently. Ask yourself the important questions that will allow you to make meaningful changes. Free up your time for your priorities. You’ll be glad you did!

Do What You Love – Love What You Do


Do What You Love – Love What You Do

When you get up in the morning you have a choice. You can look forward to the day ahead, or you can dread it. And much of that choice depends on how much you like what you’re getting ready to do for the next 16 hours before it’s time to hit the hay again.

Of course we’re not going to love everything we end up doing during the day (I don’t know many of us that look forward to cleaning the bathroom), but you should be able to find some things to look forward to. And the more of that you can work into your life, the more fulfilled and happy you’ll be.

Love What You Do For A Living 

Is your job something you look forward to, or something you dread? If you’re not having fun and enjoy what you’re doing (most of the time… we all have bad days), it may be time to look into a career change. No amount of money is worth being miserable and it’s hard to enjoy life and love who you are when you hate much of what you’re doing each day. Instead find something you can get behind and be passionate about. Make a living while making a difference and fulfilling your purpose in life.

Do What You Love Around The House 

Our home holds special place in our heart. It’s our safe place, where we raise our kids and rest our head at night. It should be a place we enjoy spending time in. It should be a property we are proud to own something we enjoy taking care of. In other words, our home should be our sanctuary.

Take a look around you. What do you love about your home? What don’t you love particularly? What can you do about that? Start small, but start to improve your surroundings. Moving into your dream house overlooking the ocean may not be an option right now, but you can paint your living room walls and hang up a pretty beach painting. Turn your home into a place you love.

Do What You Love – a.k.a. Hobbies 

Even if you are in a situation where you can’t do much about your job or your house, there are other ways to incorporate what you love into your day. Find something you enjoy doing. It could be gardening, curling up with a good book, playing golf, photography, knitting… it doesn’t matter what it is as long as it is something you love and enjoy. In other words, find a hobby and make sure you make some time for it in your busy day and week.

How Finding Your Life Purpose Can Make You Happy

How Finding Your Life Purpose Can Make You Happy 

There’s a quote by Dr. Albert Schweitzer that’s worth pondering:

“The purpose of human life is to serve, and to show compassion and the will to help others. “

Think about this for a minute. Finding your purpose becomes a lot easier when you think about it in these terms. What skills and traits do you have that could help others? How could you build your life, your job, or your business around those skills?

But what does all that have to do with making you happy? Taking the time to figure out how you can help others and then doing just that is a powerful thing. We are social creatures and hardwired to help our community. When we make it a daily goal to do just that it’s an incredibly rewarding experience.

Yes, part of it is because we’ll be thanked or recognized for what we’re doing, but that’s only a small part of it. To be perfectly honest, doing good will make you happy even when no one else knows about it. There’s an internal reward built in. We feel good about ourselves. Our self-worth grows and with it our self-esteem.

Or think about it this way. What would make you feel better? Going about your day shuffling papers, answering the phone and putting in the time required at your desk without much to show for at the end of the day? Or would you feel more fulfilled and happier if you knew without a shadow of a doubt that you made a difference in someone’s life today? What if that paperwork you did helped a family find a better place to live? What if those calls you made ensured that a little girl doesn’t go to bed hungry tonight. What if that class you taught helps a young mom stay home with her baby and still contribute to the family income? What if you found your purpose – whatever it may be – and made a real difference in someone’s life with what you do? Wouldn’t that make you feel happier? Wouldn’t that give you a sense of accomplishment?

Spend a little time to figure out what you can do to help those around you. Think about what you could do to serve others and make a difference in their lives. In other words, spend a little time figuring out what your purpose in life is and how it can impact the people whose lives you touch – be it in person, through a book or via the internet. That’s the beauty of the day and age we live in. We can reach and make a difference in the lives of people across the globe.

Stop making excuses and find your purpose, and with it your own happiness.

I invite you to book a life purpose reading if you need assistance with discovering how you can live your life purpose.

How to build your self esteem by doing your thing.

How to build your self esteem by doing your thing.

On a scale of one to ten, how would you rate your self esteem? Is it easy for you to be loud and proud and share with others your opinion? You work? How about your personal needs or preferences? Does your environment and home reflect who you are as a person? It is worth considering.

Take a deep breath.

Now I want you to Ask yourself: Who are you trying to impress?  Take just a moment and think about it. What is the first thing that pops into your mind? Your family? Your significant other? Your second grade teacher? If the answer is anyone but yourself then you need to stop seeking approval from others and begin to enjoy greater self-esteem by doing your own thing.

Approval-seeking behavior is self-sabotaging. It is exactly the opposite of being authentic. If you are seeking approval outside of yourself you are not paying attention to your inner voice, the voice of your authentic self. Besides, trying to impress others is exhausting and minimizes your own importance and individuality. The only person that you need to impress is yourself.

So if authenticity is one of your core values do you see how you would feel conflicted or like you were hiding something? Is the thing that you are hiding from others your SELF?

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Free yourself from the need to receive approval from others:

  1. Speak up. Share your opinion. One symptom of approval-seeking behavior is the hesitance to share your own opinion. You worry that you might say something that the other person doesn’t like or doesn’t approve of and since it was your opinion, they might not approve of you either.
    • Give your opinion, even if it makes you uncomfortable. Start with smaller things. Do you think it will rain? Do you prefer red or white? Which movie would you like to see? Vanilla or chocolate?
  2. Avoid judging others. If you’re busy in your head being overly critical of others, you are not being fully present with what is going on before you. In this autopilot state of being it’s only natural that you assume others are the same towards you. This will tie you up in a knot. By training yourself to avoid this type of behavior, you’ll be less likely to make a negative assumption that everyone else is judging you. This strategy frees everyone up. Allow others to be as they are. It makes life more interesting. Sit back and enjoy the differences.
    • Notice your thoughts. Are you constantly judging others in a variety of situations?
    • Instill a habit to uplift and inspire others to find their way event if it is different than your own. Celebrate differences and perspective and watch the flow open up in your life.
  3. Beware of energetic manipulation and how you allow it. Realize that others can use disapproval can be used as a weapon. Many people use disapproval as a means of getting what they want. They may disapprove of your opinion, clothing, hairstyle, or anything else to enjoy the fruits of your submission. This is a form of energetic manipulation and once you become aware of the pattern it is up to you to break the cycle.
    • Call people on their disapproval of you. It is important that you stand up for yourself. Ask them to explain themselves if you are unclear about their stance. Remember that most negative people are looking for a victim, not a fight. When you stick up for yourself, many of the bullies disappear.
    • Knowing this can free you from seeking the approval of others. In many cases, they’re just in the game for themselves.
  4. Be aware of what happens when someone disapproves of you. Nothing happens. We seem to be born with an intense desire to fit in. But what actually happens when someone disapproves of you? The sky doesn’t fall on top of you. You might suffer from a little anxiety or embarrassment, but it passes. You are best served by learning energy tools to call back your energy to yourself and re-train negative thoughts in a more productive direction
  5. Do some things for yourself. If you’re constantly seeking approval, you’re not taking very good care of yourself. Adopt a daily practice of RADICAL Self Care. Show yourself that you’re important by focusing some of your time and energy on yourself. It might be a little bit uncomfortable at first. You might even feel selfish.
    • Make a date with yourself and schedule it in your calendar and honor it as an important obligation. This is sacred time for yourself and you are building a relationship with yourself. It is important that you know you are a priority in your life.
  6. Fill your life with things that are important. If you had to run across the street naked to save your dog’s life, you wouldn’t be worried about anyone’s opinion. That’s because your dog’s life is more important than your ego. But you don’t need a disaster to experience this.
    • Volunteer with an organization that’s doing important work in an area that you are passionate about.
    • Write a book that you believe will change peoples lives for the better.
    • Find ways to spend your time and energy on things you value.

By filling your life with people, activities and things that you value and are passionate about you will feel more ease in all areas of your life. You’ll find that you enjoy more freedom, more joy and genuine contentment in the other, less important, parts of your life.

Being overly concerned about the opinions of others is damaging to your self-esteem. Each time you seek approval outside of yourself, you’re diminishing your own self importance. Your opinion matters. Allow your individuality to be seen and experienced by others. Remember the old adage: “What other people think of you is none of your business.” It is only by embodying and aligning your highest self that you can feel the sense of approval you are searching for.

10 Habits of Happy People

Do you ever wonder why are some people happy all of the time? The happiest people have habits that raise the odds of feeling happy. Unhappy people have habits that result in less desirable feelings. It can be that simple. You can train yourself to be happy by consistently choosing happiness. If you’re not as happy as you’d like, take a look at your habits and notice what you might want to change.

Those that are happy share many qualities. Adopting these same qualities will yield positive results.

imagine happiness

imagine happiness

Habits that lead to happiness are enjoyable to implement:

  1. Optimism. Obviously, if you believe good things will happen, it’s much more likely that you’ll be happy. Expecting the worst does nothing to improve your mood! Realistically, it’s not even important to expect a positive outcome, only to believe that everything will be okay. Optimism is also a form of belief in yourself. If you believe that you can handle any outcome, you can be optimistic and have the mental freedom to be happy.
  1. Altruism. Doing things for others provides multiple benefits. You can see firsthand that you have a lot to be grateful for. You can feel good about yourself for assisting others. You have a good reason to get out of bed in the morning. You also feel useful. Make a list of at least three ways you can help others that will also fit into your schedule.
  2. Gratitude. Do you realize how many great things and people you already have in your life? By maintaining focus on the things you don’t have, you’re making yourself unhappy. Experiencing gratitude helps to create feelings of happiness. Recently a friend of mine took a 21 day gratitude challenge and literally texted me 3 things a day that made her feel grateful. The outcome was that she was uplifted, I was uplifted by her morning text and our friendship was deepened. A win all around! why not try it?
  3. An exciting future. Maximum happiness requires that you have something to look forward to. It can be that compelling vision you created at your last business event, retiring early, a luxury vacation, or a hot date on Saturday night. Have a few goals that give you a reason to be excited. This means you have to be brave enough to create really exciting goals! Create goals that are both short-term and long-term to keep you in the flow.
  4. Success. Spend some time doing things that you’re good at and that you truly love to do. It feels good to do well at something. It doesn’t have to be a competitive event. You can run a 5k or play the piano and feel great about yourself. Make of list of the things you excel at and try to spend at least a little time each day doing one of them.
  5. Resilience. This is such an important one. We all know it’s impossible to avoid challenging times. Sooner or later, something will happen that threatens your progress, success, or happiness. Resilience is the ability to continue forging ahead. Some people have a knack for making obstacles seem bigger than they really are. Others are able to maintain their composure and continue making progress. How resilient are you when it comes to overcoming your obstacles?
  6. Reasonable expectations. When your expectations are overly optimistic, you’ll routinely experience disappointment. When your expectations are consistently low, you won’t feel very optimistic. Neither is a recipe for happiness. Even the co-creative Laws of Attraction require you to meet the universe half way. You must set your intention and take necessary action.
  7. Forgiveness. How can you be happy while holding a grudge? Forgiving others quickly and easily make happiness possible. You might feel that some people don’t deserve forgiveness, but what is the alternative? Making yourself unhappy. On an energetic level you are depleting your energy and causing yourself harm by holding on to grievances in the past. I love the Hawaiian energy healing practice of Ho’o pono-pono which “puts things right again” on an energetic level so that everyone is free from the entanglement.
  8. Authenticity. Spending your time pretending to be something you’re not is a challenge to your self-esteem. Happiness is allusive if you don’t feel comfortable being yourself. Speak your truth. Allow your uniqueness to show. You will then attract people and situations that are in better alignment with who you are in the world.
  9. Presence. Thinking about the past leads to regret. Thoughts of the future lead to anxiety. Keep your mind in the present if you want to experience happiness on a regular basis.

There’s nothing complicated about happiness. Forgive others, be yourself, give of yourself, and be grateful for the things and people you already have. Having an effective set of habits will result in feeling more happiness. Expect success, dream of wonderful goals that scare you just a little and choose happiness every single day.

 

As my gift for you today: Here is a video affirmation meditation to assist you with goal setting entitled “Dreams are magic.” Dare to dream a fantastic wonderful life for yourself.

Please let me know if I can be of any assistance to you in your journey to success and happiness!
happy healing!
Aeriol
www.askaeriol.com

 

9 Character Traits to adopt for Happiness and Success

There are certain character traits that would benefit you immensely if you took the time to develop them. Consider the people you admire the most in the present and from the past. How would you describe them? Could you adopt the same characteristics that make them so successful and admirable?

Believe in your dreams

Developing these traits will support your happiness and success:

  1. Perseverance. You can predict someone’s success by their ability to persevere. If you give up easily, you’re going to struggle in life. Perseverance also promotes stability and consistent progress. Learn to deal with emotional discomfort and obstacles. There are few characteristics that are more valuable.
  2. Reliability. You probably have at least one friend that’s unreliable. You never know for certain if they’re going to keep their word. They’re either forgetful or have a million and one excuses that you know aren’t true. Be a reliable and trustworthy person.
  3. Optimism. Good things frequently happen if you expect them to happen. When you expect the worst, you often receive the worst. Optimism is good for your mental health and is attractive to others. Keep a positive mental attitude at all times. Ask yourself, “What’s the best that can happen in this situation?”
  4. Be proactive. So many of life’s challenges can be avoided easily. When your car has 200,000 miles, it’s going to break down sooner rather than later. If your company continues to have poor financial results, people are going to be fired. The writing is often on the wall. Avoid challenges instead of reacting to them.
  5. Courageousness. A little courage can change your life. It’s amazing how kind the universe is to those willing to stick their neck out just a little. So speak up without hesitation and self doubt! A 5% increase in courage can double your results. Those are pretty good odds.
  6. Self-discipline. There are things in life that are unenjoyable, but necessary. Those who are willing to do these unenjoyable tasks are rewarded handsomely. If it needs to be done, have the self-discipline to get it done. Can’t do it? Pay someone else to do it for you. You’ll pay the price one way or another.
  7. Generosity. When you’re willing to give part of your time, money, and attention to others, you receive even more in return. Others appreciate your help and will return the favor when you need it the most. You’ll also feel good about yourself and acquire new allies. Be generous when you can. Think of one place where you can donate your time or money and make plans to contribute one or the other. Most of us either have available time or money. Give what you can.
  8. Learning oriented. Always be acquiring new information and skills. It’s one of the few ways to increase your value to the world. The more you learn, the more you can impact the world. Seek out new things, be curious and Learn something new each day. 
  9. Forgiving. No one is perfect 24/7 and no one can live up to your expectations every minute of the day. Forgiving others is kind and good for you. Holding a grudge is uncomfortable and serves no purpose. Forgiving doesn’t always mean giving the other person a second chance to mistreat you. It means that you no longer expend emotional energy on the situation. On an energetic level holding on to that stuff only causes you harm. Practice the Hawaiian energy healing practice of Ho’o pono-pono or do a conscious ceremony to release anger from the past.

Take a personal inventory of these qualities and see how many you already possess. What additional character traits would you like to develop? Humility? Tolerance? Curiosity? Make a master list of the character traits you need to be happy, successful, and proud of yourself.  Give these traits the time and attention needed to develop them fully.

Thanks for reading! Please let me know if I can be of any assistance to you on your path to happiness. Please enjoy this video affirmation meditation: I am happy!

 

 

Ask Aeriol (teleseminar pilot) Meditation and Manifestation Reading

Here is the audio podcast of our very first “Ask Aeriol” Tele-Summit Meditation Seminar. In this recording

1)Aeriol offers the group her own version of the Unified Heart Chakra Meditation from Archangel Ariel as channelled by Tashira Tachi-ren.

2)Aeriol quickly and effortlessly deals with hilarious interruptions during the meditation as we work out technical difficulties.

3) Aeriol also does a Manifestation Reading with Goddess Oracle Cards and a special call-in Angel Card Reading.

This episode is Full of surprising twists and turns as we fumble towards mastery in serving our Reiki Angel Intuitive Arts clients.

Happy Healing and Reiki Angel Blessings to All!

 

Ask Aeriol Show Archives October 12, 2015: Mike Osborn Interview

Aeriol Ascher, motivational speaker, teacher and vocalist from San Jose, CA

Aeriol Ascher, motivational speaker, teacher and vocalist from San Jose, CA hosts her premier “Ask Aeriol” show on Mutiny Radio. Today’s show: “How to be a rock star with Mike Osborn”

So excited to have the opportunity and the privilege to interview my dear friend and fellow musician Mike Osborn of the Mike Osborn Band for my very first radio spot on Mutiny Radio in San Francisco on October 13, 2015.  4-6pm

Our show featured some of Mike’s music from his first 2 CD’s as well as a great phone interview with Roberto Hernandez, independent drummer, marketing guru and co-founder of the Musicians Marketing Network. Roberto gives us a brief insight into his upcoming book for working musicians and shares the objective of the Musicians Marketing Network with he founded with Aeriol a little more than a year ago. Please join the Bay Area Musicians Marketing Network public group on Facebook to keep up with news and events.

We appreciated all the callers who rang us up to ask Mike questions and share stories with us!

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