Do you long for freedom? Do you realize that only you have the power to Set Yourself Free? Are you ready to get real and be your authentic self?
Authenticity is often underrated. It’s more than being honest with the world or speaking your mind. It’s about being honest with yourself and who you are and how you are being. There are many advantages to being authentic. Most importantly, you’ll no longer feel the need to change your words and actions to impress others. Being in authentic is EXHAUSTING! What other people think of you is none of your business. You can relax and be yourself.
Before you can be completely authentic, it’s important to know yourself. Who are you really? You need to develop a certain level of self-awareness. This includes clarity around your values and goals. This also includes developing a relationship with your higher self. Developing communication with your inner self and tuning into your body consciously on a regular basis. Authenticity becomes possible when you know what’s truly important to you as a person and as a spirit.
Embrace authenticity and present yourself honestly:
- Give up the need to appear perfect. When you don’t need to appear perfect, you’re in the position to be honest. If you are spending to much time thinking about this you are in your head or listening to you negative ego. If you are in your heart and doing what is authentic you are not hiding or covering up anything. You are transparent. No one can be perfect and honest at the same time. Avoid putting on a show for the rest of the world. You’ll only feel bad about yourself later.
- It’s okay to be less than spectacular. Be the best at being yourself.
- Know your values and live by them. If you know your core values and live by them consistently, you’re already doing well in the authenticity department. More importantly I want you to embody your values. When you are congruent with the energies or your values you actually begin to emit those energies to others. You can only do this my writing them down and referring back to them on a regular basis. Make it part of your daily practice. For myself some of my values include: Freedom, Self-Expression, Creativity, Light-heartedness, Love, Authenticity, Compassion, desire to learn and my list goes on….
- Make a list of your core values and determine the top 5-7 that are most important to you. Are you living your life in alignment to these values? Would it be obvious to others that you hold these values?
- Decide to make your decisions based upon your core values. Be willing to share your values with others. If something is not in alignment with what you stand for consider if you want it in your life or if you want to make some changes. It is only by making these distinctions can you start to build a reality and a world that is in harmony with who you are on a deep authentic level.
- Notice when you’re not being authentic. It’s not easy to be authentic all the time. You might find yourself transforming based on the situation. A first date is a good example. Or going into a networking event trying to size up a new group. Are you being authentic or pretending to be someone you’re not? Are you able to share what you are about or do you clam up?
- Take note of those times your authenticity starts to wane. Notice if you are participating in conversations or just giving lip service without fully engaging with others. Many times we are in a conversation and we don’t even hear what the other person is saying because we are inside ourselves trying to think of what we will say as soon as the other person stops talking! It is important to be able to stay present and be with others. It is equally important to be able to share authentically when it is our time.
- Know your goals. What do you want out of life? What direction are you headed in? What are you passionate about? Do you know what steps you need to take to get to where you want to be? Are you willing to let others know what you want and how you intend to get there? By knowing your goals, you can you live your life and direct your activities and energy accordingly. You have to be willing to really look deeply at your motivations and be aware of your intentions.
- Make a list of your short-term and long-term goals. How well do they align with your values? Are they your goals from your most authentic heart or are you trying to get something to win approval?
- What are your defining characteristics? Describe yourself honestly. Now ask yourself if a casual acquaintance would describe you the same way? How about someone that knows you well? How about your closest friend?
- How many people know you well? If there aren’t many, ask yourself why. If you’re living authentically, it should be easy for someone to develop an accurate opinion of you because you will have nothing to hide. You will project clarity and direction. If you are not being authentic you will project uncertainty or perhaps even indifference.
- What are your “negative” characteristics? Are you impatient, gossipy, self centered or messy? Are you willing to allow others to see these characteristics or do you attempt to hide them?
- Tell the truth. If you’re being authentic, why would you need to lie? This pertains especially to anything you say about yourself. Admit your mistakes, weaknesses, and frailties. Share your opinions honestly and freely.
- Simplify your life. Get rid of everything that’s extraneous. What you choose to keep will be representative of your preferences and your true self. Find your true essence by stripping away the non-essential. Start with the clothes you never wear, the things you never use, and the activities you don’t enjoy. Only keep the things that mean the most to you.
- Do what you say you’ll do. Or as Don Miguel Ruiz says in the 4 Agreements: Be your Word. Keep your word and follow through on your promises. Language is the manifestation of thought. Use your super power of words and language wisely. Choose words that uplift. Choose to keep your word when you say you will do something. Your word is who you are. You’ll feel more congruent, and others will view you as more congruent. When your words and actions match, you’re demonstrating authenticity.
Life becomes easier when you’re living authentically. You’ll no longer feel the exhaustion that comes with constantly changing your opinions, attitudes, and personality to please others. You’ll no longer feel the need to protect yourself from others.
Whenever possible choose to be authentic with your thoughts, words, and actions. Invest the time in yourself and learn to be free.
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